The 40 Most Important Things I Have Learned In My First 40 Years

Growing up, 40 always seemed so old. But as I turned 40 this week, I realise in so many ways that life has really only just begun.
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Today I turned 40 years old, and I wanted to share with you the 40 most important things I have learned in my first 40 years. So, I am going to give you 10 health lessons, 10 love and relationship lessons, 10 spiritual lessons and 10 wealth and business lessons.

I do want to add before we dive into the top 40 lessons, that turning 40 has been a reminder to me to never just accept the status quo. We are told that we are supposed to get older in so many ways… grey hair, weight gain, low libido, less sex, less energy, all sorts of diseases that are just a normal part of aging, one holiday per year… I say screw that paradigm. I don’t subscribe to that and nor should you.

Turning 40 has been such a beautiful affirmation for me because for the first time in my life I feel like I am, well… me. On the weekend I had a bunch of beautiful friends sing me happy birthday, and for the first time, I actually felt comfortable to just receive all that love. In the past, I think I knew that deep down I was not really living life to my full potential, so I could never really celebrate the miracle it was to be me.

But now, the best way to describe it is that I feel like I have arrived. And when I say arrived, I mean I may have graduated from consciousness kindergarten to consciousness high school. There is a long way to go, but now I can see that the cumulative effect of all the work I have done on myself over the years is actually really worth it.

All the joy, pain, love, heartbreak, illness, wellness, wealth, lack of wealth, has added up to a life well lived. Because our truth, which is love, is the sum of all things.
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Black and white, negative and positive.

And that’s the perfect segway into the first 10 lessons. These are bite-sized nuggets that will be easy for you to implement or remember. I could list 100 of these in each category, to be honest, but here is my best attempt to distill the things that have made the most impact for me personally and I hope can do the same for you too. Everything I have mentioned here today will have been discussed in depth in another episode, so if you want to go deeper then I encourage to go on a binge and start at episode 0.


  1. Meditate every day and express your gratitude as much as possible.
  2. If you don’t like what you created, create again. Every moment is a clean slate which you can create anew. Use these two words for whatever you want to create, “I am”.
  3. What you resist persists. What you look at disappears.
  4. Whenever we feel upset or emotional, it simply means we are not seeing the other side.
  5. People will always live according to their values, not yours. When we project our values onto other people, we end up having unmet, unrealistic expectations which can only lead to disappointment.
  6. Be love, always. Ask yourself in all situations, “What would love do now?”
  7. Thoughts are things. Be careful what you wish for.
  8. You attract what you fear, you repel what you want.
  9. Pain and pleasure are inseparable. To experience the full spectrum is to be human.
  10. Trust your intuition and be gentle with yourself.


  1. Meditate every day and express your gratitude as much as possible.
  2. Understand your Ayurvedic constitution or body type. Seeing the imbalances early is the best way to bring yourself back into balance.
  3. Listen to your beautiful body. It’s always trying to communicate with you. Hear the whispers before they become screams.
  4. Eat and do through the lens of an extreme filter. If anything feels hard or extreme, it probably is. When we push hard in one area of the body or mind, we create an imbalance somewhere else.
  5. Slow down and breathe.
  6. Bless your food and give gratitude for what is on your plate and how it got there.
  7. Spend as much time in nature as possible.
  8. Move your body with love every day.
  9. Eat more plants. Depending on your body type and needs, between 80 to 95% of your diet, or 100% if you are vegan of course.
  10. Get the knowledge to be your own healer. Take back your health into your own hands.

Wealth & Business

  1. Meditate every day and express your gratitude as much as possible.
  2. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. We all have our own journey and will all experience different amounts of wealth. The same goes for social media numbers, it’s not the numbers that matter, it’s the impact you are having.
  3. Stop wondering what your purpose is. It’s simple. Your purpose is to be of service. The question is ‘how’. And the ‘how’ is unique to you. It’s your mission. To me right now it’s my music, this podcast, my social media content, my various businesses, my friends, strangers I do nice things for. Don’t over complicate things too much.
  4. Just start. You can always pivot when you are moving, but if you try and pivot with no momentum you just end up spinning in the same spot.
  5. Get to know your numbers. If you don’t know the numbers of your business, your bank accounts, your interest rates, your credit card fees, then the universe loses trust in your ability to hold wealth and sends it elsewhere. Plug the holes in your leaky money buckets and you will be rewarded proportionately to your belief.
  6. Discipline is freedom. If we send our days consumed by figuring out the best morning routine, the best exercise, what to wear or what to eat, it takes up space to create something amazing. Just decide and commit.
  7. If you can, retire from email for good. I have done it and will share how in an episode soon. Email may be unavoidable but it is one of the biggest things that gets in the way of us expressing ourselves in this lifetime.
  8. Look for ways to create residual income. Whether it’s through smart investing and classic compound interest, network marketing, book royalties or music royalties, search for something that resonates with you and make it happen with all your being. Life is not about money, but when money is no longer an issue, life certainly can be far sweeter and affords you the space to create what your heart desires.
  9. There is a simple way to calculate the wealth you can expect. What you receive = the value you give to the world.
  10. Give 5-10% of what you earn to a cause you love. Let the universe know you are abundant enough to give. Spend less than you earn. Invest the rest. Even if that means starting with giving away $50 and investing $5, it’s a huge energetic shift that will propel you forwards.

Love & Relationships

  1. “Nothing good comes from closing.”
  2. If we project our values onto our lover and expect them to live by our values, it can only lead to resentment because they will always live according to their values, not yours.
  3. Understand the role of the masculine and feminine within yourself and within your relationship.
  4. Give your partner over the top affection. What do you have to lose? Hold their hand, tell them you love them, tell them how beautiful they are, tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life, kiss them passionately in public, pinch their butt, brush past their breasts on purpose, kiss their necks, massage them each night… whatever it is that feels true to you, just do it. They will be more grateful than you can ever imagine!
  5. If you want more love, make love. It really is that simple, but you have to create the space and consciously do the work in your relationship.
  6. Create our own ‘Lovers Code
  7. Tell each other at the start and end of each day these four simple words, ‘I choose you today.”
  8. Listen…
  9. Have regular date nights. Don’t forget that feeling of going somewhere special and being totally present with each other. Leave your phones at home.
  10. Life is always going to present itself in equal amounts of support and challenge. The trick is not to see the challenge or the hard times in relationships as the end of the world. If we believe that love is all ups and fewer downs, then we are going to be disappointed. When times are tough we want to see our partner as the teacher, not the tormentor. And if we do end a relationship, remember, break-ups don’t need to leave us broken. See that relationship for what it truly was; a vehicle for you to realise your potential.

I would love to hear from you, so please tag me @iamnickbroadhurst on social media. Please also leave me a comment below (I read every single one!). And if you could take a minute to leave me a review on iTunes I would be very grateful. Tell me what you want more of! I am at your service.

P.S. Always listen to your intuition (and your doctor or practitioner) before trying any new health or lifestyle practice.


    • Dear Nick

      I just wanted to thank you for transforming my life the past year! Not only doing business with you has been transformational but I love your radical honesty and your inputs in your podcast. Thank you for being such a beacon and you can’t imagine how you have changed my life!

      Massive love from Switzerland,

      November 28, 2018
      • You are most welcome… Melissa and I are so grateful to have you :)

        Nick Broadhurst
        January 10, 2019
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