Episode Resources
- Listen to ‘Little Lover’
- Ep 32 – An Orgasm A Day Keeps The Divorce Lawyer Away
- Ep 56 – Living By The ‘Lovers’ Code
Feeling like I do, little lover
Wrap your legs around undercover
Wake up next to you, little lover
Do those things you do like no other
And this is very, very relevant to today’s episode. This episode is called “The Consensual Quickie.” Let’s talk about sex, baby! We’re going to talk about sex. I know what you’re thinking: Why does Broadhurst always talk about sex? Now I’m no expert, but what I do know is just how important it is to maintain this intimate connection with your partner. And you know what? Lovemaking doesn’t have to be a long process. In fact, sometimes a quickie is exactly what you need.
Let’s look at a house. Most houses are built with bricks. The bricks are love. Without them, there’s no foundation. But in between each brick is cement. Now without cement, the whole thing falls apart. Cement is sex. Connection. Affection. Intimacy. It’s the glue that binds us. We all have lots of different types of relationship, but only one – well, in most cases – lover. And the one thing you do with your lover that you don’t do with anybody else is sex. It’s making love. So if you want more love in your relationship, you need to make more love. It’s really not rocket science.
And if you haven’t heard episode 32, “An Orgasm a Day Keeps the Divorce Lawyer Away,” and episode 56, “Living by the Lover’s Code,” check those out, because they’re going to be very supportive in your intimate journeys with your partner. I’ll link to them in today’s show notes at www.iamnickbroadhurst.com/58.
But today, I want to quickly jump into your ears and give you a little nudge, a quick reminder of the importance of sex, or making love. Call it whatever you want, whatever most resonates. The one thing that can get in the way of lovemaking, I have found, is the time needed to create the space for the juices to flow, so to speak.
Now every woman is different. Every woman has different needs in order to become aroused, in order to be able to make love, to be ready to make love. So the partner needs to get to know their rhythm in order to be able to judge when she’s ready and when it’s okay for actual penetration to take place. This, on most occasions, is like an unspoken consent, because you understand each other. You’re very tuned in to each other, and you can feel when it’s time.
But what about a good old quickie? Is there a place for the quickie? Sometimes in our spiritual journey, our journey of awareness, we can think that everything has to be deep. But you know what? When it comes to lovemaking, I believe there is a place for adding a quickie into a lovemaking repertoire. But there must be absolute trust between you both first.
The reason I bring this up is because sometimes life can get quite full. And sex can take a backseat. So rather than being in the backseat, doing the jig, you allow that glue to start to evaporate. That connection starts to dissipate. Then you get friction, etc., etc., and the whole thing starts to unravel. The foundation starts to fall apart.
I believe the quickie, at times, can be a solution. But it must be consensual. On weeks where we have my son, Leo, Melissa’s bonus son, sometimes we just do not have the space or as much time together. It’s harder to create the space for a juicy, long lovemaking session. So often I’ll just give Melissa that look and my body language indicates to her that this is not going to be a long one, but let’s make the most of the next ten minutes or so, and get our day off to a cracking start.
Remember, I’m not talking about the man getting his rocks off here. That’s okay; I’m not judging that at all. That’s perfectly, totally cool at times, as well, to ejaculate. And I will speak about this in another episode. We’ll make the differentiation between ejaculation, orgasm, and whole-body orgasm. They’re very, very different things.
But what I’m talking about here is connecting with the feminine, taking the feminine back to a space of love, being of service to the feminine, getting her back to her heart, back to her truth. You can do this with a quickie. But it takes trust. It takes deep connection. It takes nurturing.
And if all you do is go for the quickie all the time, but then during the day you don’t show each other affection and respect, then your lovemaking is going to feel cheap. It’s going to feel like junk-food sex, because you haven’t taken the time to develop and nurture that trust and that connection with all the little things that you do during the day, and then the longer lovemaking sessions that you have on other occasions.
You need to have that foundation in place to be able to really enjoy the quickie. So if you’ve taken that time to nurture your love life on all levels, then the quickie can be really fun. It becomes a handy tool, an extension of your deeper lovemaking. Seriously, it is so fun. It makes you laugh. It makes you smile. It can send you out into the day feeling like everything is perfect, everything is good. Why am I talking about this today? Well, today, everything, my friend, is all good.
For today’s show notes, you can head into www.iamnickbroadhurst.com/58. I know this was a quick one, because this is about quickies. And you can get a full transcript of the show as well. Don’t forget to make sure you hit the subscribe button on your podcast app, so that you get all the latest episodes of The Nick Broadhurst Show popping up in your feed. I don’t want you to miss an episode. And head into iTunes, if you can, on your computer or on your phone, and leave me a review. Whatever you want to say, however many stars feels good to you, I would love to hear from you.
And you know what? Let’s share the heck out of this episode. This is so often taboo, to talk about sex, but it shouldn’t be. So let’s share it. Share it with your lover. Share it with a friend. Share it on social media. Let’s get it out into the world, because the world can never have enough people starting their days with connection and orgasm. Make sure you tag me when you share it @IAmNickBroadhurst.
Remember today to look up. See the beauty around you. See the beauty within you. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t take your lovemaking too seriously all the time. Have fun with it. Be love to your lover, always. Treat them like Jesus. Treat them like Buddha. Treat them like Muhammad. Treat them like Mother Teresa. Treat them with respect. Be love to yourself. Listen to your intuition. And, as always, have a beautiful day. I love you heaps. Ciao.
I would love to hear from you, so please tag me @IAmNickBroadhurst on social media, and use the hashtag #TheNickBroadhurstShow, or leave me a comment below (I read every single one!). And if you could take a minute to leave me a review (5 stars would be epic, but whatever feels true for you) on iTunes I would be very grateful. Tell me what you want more of! I am at your service.
P.S. Always listen to your intuition (and your doctor or practitioner) before trying any new health practice.