Are You Seeking Unity?

Have you ever wondered why you feel so terrible when someone gets angry at you? You know that feeling where the other person's energy feels like it's stuck in your cells? What you are about to learn has the power to see you always recognise when something is not yours, step back, be the observer, and transform any situation back to love.
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Welcome back to The Nick Broadhurst Show. I’m your host, Nick Broadhurst, and you can check out all of my work including my music, my music videos, every single one of the podcast episodes of The Nick Broadhurst Show and all the things that I do at

And wherever you listen to music, whether it’s on Spotify, Google Play, Deezer, YouTube, iTunes, Apple Music, you can hear my work just simply by searching for my name which is Broadhurst. And that song you were listening to is a song, actually a remix of my song, Little Lover by a British artist called Etherglow.

And we have actually teamed up on another song together which was my latest single, Open Wide. He did such a beautiful job on that and what I love about Etherglow, his name is Brad, he has no idea how talented he is. It blows my mind. And you’re just about to find out how good he is because coming up this week we have two remixes of Open Wide coming out and two of them… sorry, three remixes… and two of them by Etherglow and one is by TEEMID.

And if you’re familiar with the remixes of Little Lover by Etherglow and TEEMID, you’ll know how good they are. And I’m very very excited to have three more remixes coming out this week that you can dance to, so check them out, and to hear that full Little Lover remix by Etherglow head to

So first of all, l I wanted to thank everybody for your amazing reviews on iTunes and your messages that I get on social media. I really am incredibly grateful. And as of today, The Nick Broadhurst Show has over 160 five-star reviews and this excites me because I’m not trying to put myself on any sort of pedestal. I’m not trying to win the award for most downloads or almost reviews; I just want this information in more people’s lives.

And I actually wanted to go in today and pull out a less than 5-star review and read it to you so that we could all learn something new together because I love feedback. I want to hear what you love and what you don’t love.

So, I went into iTunes, but every single written review was five-stars which is awesome. Really awesome. I had 165 stars, three four-stars, one three-stars, zero two-stars and two one-stars. So, I wish those people who left me one star would leave me a review because I’m open to feedback so honestly, if you think The Nick Broadhurst Show totally sucks, please tell me; I’m all ears and I’m at your service and I won’t be upset. So that’s the first thing I wanted to say.

But anyway, since I went into iTunes I did pull out a review that I wanted to read to you because it is a nice little lesson I think and this one comes from Ceekay_017, and Ceekay_017 said, “If you haven’t downloaded The Nick Broadhurst Show you must. Download the series and listen to them at your own leisure. Take what you want from what Nick talks about, but honestly, I listen to many podcasts in my downtime, on flights etc., and my current fave is nix. I’m loving the message here. Nick doesn’t do the, ‘You must do this or that or else the sky will fall.’ Nick talks about what’s working for him, how to be gentle, how to listen to your own intuition, and use his learnings at your own will. I loved the podcast on Blue Zones and longevity. Plus, I’m a huge fan of his music, Little Lover being my favorite.”

And I love that because she says something… I’m assuming it’s a she, don’t know why… Ceekay_017 says something really good here. And that is where she mentions taking from my learnings. That was really accurate and I want you to know I’m not telling you what to do.

Remember, none of this information is mine. There is nothing original that exists. If something resonates with you deeply, it’s simply because you are already living it or you may have forgotten and I’m simply the reminder of what you already know. Because you know everything. I want you to know that, you know everything. The Nick Broadhurst Show is just the catalyst for change.

And I received messages of praise from people where I can clearly say they’re putting a lot of power on me or in me, and I really want to encourage you not to do that because you don’t need me. Don’t put me or anybody else on a pedestal. You are the power. You have the power. I just feel honored that you’re here and you’re listening and you’re remembering, so I just wanted to say that, and I want to say thank you for listening because it just lights me up. I love doing this so much.

Anyway, moving on. So, have you ever wondered why you feel so terrible when someone gets angry at you? You know that feeling where the other person’s energy almost feels like it’s stuck in your cells. It feels kind of gross.

And I want to do a little exercise with you. Picture a recent event where someone really had a go at you. Someone who was really quite horrible, got very angry. Anything that made you feel very uncomfortable. I’m going to give you just a bit of time to think of that situation while I hide my nipple on Instagram Live which is clearly showing.

So just take some time to think of an event recently that made you feel really terrible because someone else was being horrible towards you or angry or anything like that. I should be playing some like cool music or something.

Anything will do. And it could be from your past as well. Okay, so hopefully you’ve got an example. Welcome to unity. Today’s episode is called “Are You Seeking Unity?” And I want to talk about unity and how this is so important in all of our relationships. In fact, in everything that we do.

So let’s use a hypothetical, let’s say one person is operating at a certain level of consciousness; we’ll call it blue consciousness. And let’s say you are operating at another level of consciousness; let’s call it pink consciousness. Now via simply two different operating systems, one is not better than the other, they’re just different. Remember, there is no such thing as right or wrong.

When we are on a spiritual or a self-development path, we must never see those who are not on the same path as inferior. That is known as spiritual superiority and it’s pretty yuck. I’ve been there and it doesn’t feel good.

Now, you and your pink consciousness are on this path, but your friend or your lover, whoever you’re thinking of is not on this path; they’re on the blue path. So pink and blue. No judgment.

So one day you feel the full brunt of someone’s anger, the blue person. You can feel it in yourselves, you want to react. But why? Why do we so often feel the need to react to someone else’s stuff? And here’s the thing. The blue is trying to get you to change your energy, to change from pink through the full spectrum of color and get you to blue because if you do join them at that level of blue they have unity with you.

Just think about that for a second. What they really want deep down is unity. They are seeking unity. They want you to be on their level, vibrating at their frequency. And this is where you have all the power. This is where you can stop the leak of your energy going into their mission of seeking unity. You stop, you recognize they are seeking unity. You do this almost like you’re an outside observer removed from the situation. You’re simply watching all of it unfold and recognizing that they just want unity with you.

This immediately can turn a situation from possible anger and reaction to that of compassion and response. You can look at them and think to yourself. “Wow, they must really be hurting or really unhappy to want to make me feel the way they do in this moment.” Because hurt people hurt. Your opportunity here is to draw a line in the sand, not let yourself get caught in the trap of matching them at their level but to actually raise them out.

So how does this look in the real world? Imagine you have a sibling who’s on a very different frequency to you. They’re a different color. They like to suffer, they like to cause drama. I think a lot of us have a sibling or someone in our lives who does this.

Now let’s say your parents are coming to stay… they’re coming into town and they’re staying with your sibling for a few days. And of course naturally you would like to see your parents so you message your sibling and you get no response. You message them again and you get no response. Then finally at 5:30pm on a Friday night they’re right back to you and they say that they’re going to dinner at 6:00pm but it’s one hour from where you live and you can’t make it on time.

Now this of course was designed, it was a ploy designed to have something over you, to try and create drama and upset you. Now you can react, get angry and let them succeed in seeking unity or you can stop, be the Observer, take a deep breath, see what they’re trying to do. They’re trying to take you from pink to blue; feel the compassion for the state that they are in and respond only with love. This is the choice we all get to make in all situations.

Now don’t get me wrong. Love can be firm at times, it’s not always fluffy and willy, it can be firm. But love is love. You can respond but you can do it with love. You’ll notice I haven’t used any language like trying to drag you down, will get you down onto their level, because that would be judgment. What we don’t want to do is judge that person’s state and see ourselves as being better, or superior or above them. Remember, there is no right or wrong.

So, have a think about this. Who is seeking unity right now in your life? Who is seeking unity? What can you do today to help elevate that person into a state of more love? You can’t ever really help someone, you can only be the change you want to see. You can be the example, and by identifying these moments when someone is seeking unity you have the opportunity to be the example, to feel compassion.

Now, they may not respond and that’s okay. Don’t do it with expectations that they will change. Just do it because you know it’s your truth as a beautiful pinky who is on the path of awareness. Does that make sense? This is seeking unity. We are always seeking unity with people.

Now remember, if you find yourself doing this to someone else, ask yourself why you’re trying to seek unity with that person. Why are you trying to get them to see your point of view or to feel what you feel. Can we not respect that that person has their own frequency, their own level of awareness, their own level of consciousness? And we don’t need to impose ourselves by trying to seek unity with other people.

Now of course seeking unity can be a beautiful thing. Because it can go the opposite way. Now let’s say sometimes you’re with your lover at home and your lover is grumpy. Now you can react or you can give love. Now you can seek unity in them by giving love and that unity means then you can come back together; not in a grumpy state but in a love state. So it can go both ways. It’s a very powerful tool.

So, start to think of this concept of seeking unity, start to see it happening before you react. Start to see it happening before you create it in the first place. And that my friends is episode number 55 of The Nick Broadhurst Show. And you can get all of the show notes for today’s episode at and you can get a full transcript of the show.

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So please do hit that subscribe button, and if you can head into iTunes or your favorite podcast app and leave me I review, whether it’s one, two, three, four or five stars, I would love to hear from you. Tell me what you love. Tell me what you don’t love. Tell me what you want more of. I’m at your service.

And the last thing I want to ask of you today is to share this on your social media by using my handle @IAmNickBroadhurst so I can see it and I can say hello. So, I hope you really enjoyed that. It’s a really really powerful concept, the concept of seeking unity.

And remember today to look up, see the beauty around you, see the beauty within you. Be gentle with yourself, be love, recognize when someone is seeking unity. Don’t react, respond with love. Recognize when you are seeking unity and use it as a powerful tool of transformation. It’s alchemy. Unity has the potential to be alchemy, to turn the dark into light. And listen to your intuition. It’s so important. And as always, my dear friend, have a really beautiful day. I love you heaps. Ciao!

I would love to hear from you, so please tag me @IAmNickBroadhurst on social media, and use the hashtag #TheNickBroadhurstShow, or leave me a comment below (I read every single one!). And if you could take a minute to leave me a 5 star review on iTunes I would be very grateful.


    • My one star review is …. you complicated the 9 pillars of health with Ayurveda, when not one of the blue zones is in India… You also did not make it clear that food combining has nothing to do with any of the Blue Zone findings.

      March 21, 2018
      • Well, this is interesting because it is under the assumption that the 9 pillars are perfect. I think they are a great start, but any findings that do not take into account bio-individuality cannot be conclusive. Yes, India is not in the Blue Zones, but the Ayurvedic system is in my opinion the most complete system available from one culture, so when you look at the findings in The Blue Zones and combine that with Ayurveda, well now you might just be onto something. And the point on food combining was made very clear that is was from my personal perspective. Seems a bit harsh to give 1 star when there is so much information in there of use, but thank you for the feedback :)

        B R O A D H U R S T
        March 22, 2018
    • Interesting on two counts. Firstly, I have a family event coming up shortly that I am absolutely dreading. I have a sibling that has screamed in my face at the last three family events. I have, as a result, completely withdrawn from my family as they (nor I) can defend against this family member. To think of the space this person is coming from as a different ‘colour’ at the other end of the spectrum seems a hugely helpful tool for me. I don’t think it will change our relationship at any point soon but it will change my reaction – which is of course something to take ownership of. The second interesting thing to say here (if you don’t mind) is that I appreciated what you said about spiritual superiority. I do know people who are far more advanced on their ‘journey’ than I will ever be – or want to be – and there is a sense of superiority at times, which can be off putting. I was reluctant to read anything of yours actually (I only came here because of some of your music on YouTube) because I felt that it would be in the same vein. I am happy to see it is not.I will catch up on some of your other podcasts now :)

      March 25, 2018
      • Phew! Looks like I escaped spiritual superiority. Never want to ever make anyone feel inferior (because they aren’t!) , so I am glad you can see that. And re your family, simply changing your response WILL change the relationship… give it time and see what bubbles up, but with no expectations of course ;)

        B R O A D H U R S T
        March 25, 2018
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