What we are going to be talking about today is the first step in moving towards the female cervical orgasm. Why is this so important? For most of my life I thought the centre of the female orgasmic universe was the clitoris. That’s where most of my attention went, and the act of intercourse was more of an additional device to bring my partner to clitoral orgasm.
After having a pretty mediocre sex life for most of my adult years, I started to look deeper, and things all started to change when I heard about the cervical orgasm. It seemed almost like this mystical magical thing that only few women would ever experience. Since diving more into this topic, and speaking with many women, I have come to realise that the majority of women are not aware of the deep layers of pleasure that lay beyond the clitoral and G Spot orgasms. So if you are listening to this and thinking, “what is he talking about?”, well you are not alone. In fact almost every woman I have spoken with had no idea that there was such a thing as a cervical orgasm.
But it’s not just about pleasure. It’s about healing. Women can hold a lot of trauma in this part of their body. Sexual shame, abusive partners, body image, having sex with men who were not your truth… all of these things, and many more, can add up to a physical and energetic ‘holding on’ which ultimately stifle your ability to experience your highest self.
The first person I was ever able to take to a cervical orgasm was Melissa. We were both so open with each other, and I was ready and confident to take her beyond the superficial layers of pleasure she had experienced previously. Equally for me, this level of vulnerability would heal me in ways I never imagined. The cervical orgasm can give you an experience of feeling God. How is that possible? In order to get to the depths of a cervical orgasm, you need to get to a state of openness and letting go which flows through into all areas of your life. So many blockages need to be cleared. And then, in that moment of climax, the energy is free to wash over your entire body, doing even more healing an clearing in the process.
But before we go there, we first need to move beyond first base, the clitoral orgasm, and onto the G Spot. This is going to be a very technical episode with specific instructions for the male to do with his female partner. But, this can be adapted to do alone with yourself if you are single or simply want to experiment before involving your partner.
Ok, let’s get started…
Ask her to do a pee first before getting started and make sure your fingernails are cut all the way back and have no sharp edges.
Thumbing is a genius technique and can be quite quick eventually, but for now we want to make sure our Queens are really warmed up. Every woman is different, so you don’t want to start this until you know she is ready for some penetration. She should be totally relaxed, comfortable, open, turned on and wet.
With your queen laying on her stomach, you can now insert your thumb in with your thumbnail facing up, and the soft part of the thumb facing down towards the bed. Your thumb is perfectly designed for G Spot stimulation because when it’s fully inserted, if you bend your thumb just a little, the soft part of your thumb will land straight onto the G Spot. So gents, now you have no excuse. You now know exactly where the G Spot is.
At first it may not feel like much if she is not turned on. It feels like an ever so slightly raised area about the same size as your soft thumb tissue. Start by stroking really gently. Every woman will require a different intensity. Remember, this is not about you. You are in service to your Queen right now, which in turn will serve you more than you can ever imagine.
Organic grapeseed oil is very healthy as a lubricant and can make the first few times much more enjoyable by removing any nervousness your woman, or you, may have around getting turned on and wet. Organic coconut oil is also a healthy oil which you can use. Every woman is different, and every woman has their own unique microbiome balance, so if you do decide to use one of these, make sure you tune into how you feel afterwards and the days after.
You have been stroking really gently by now for some time, gauging how she is feeling. Keep stroking it. You can push down gently, or go in and out on that area, or around in circles. Experiment to see what your lover enjoys. Every woman is different, but they do have one thing in common… they all have a G Spot and working together to open up this part of the body is super rewarding on so many levels.
Ask her how she feels. Tell her how amazing it is to touch her body. Tell her how honoured you are to be sharing this experience. Be totally devoted to your woman. You have no end game here other than making her feel loved, gorgeous and orgasmic. Orgasms will come, but don’t focus on that. Trust me, when the orgasms come, there is no mistaking it! Like a freight train crashing into your living room, it’s pretty hard to miss.
After a while you can feel the soft tissue, which attaches to the nerve endings of the G Spot, will start to swell. It will rise up to meet your thumb. You will notice it starts to feel like a soft walnut almost. Like a pillow with little ridges swelling up. It’s subtle but you will know it when you feel it.
This is where the fun starts. What I am about to tell you may feel strange at first because we have all been told to be so delicate with our lady’s privates, and that may be the case for clitoral stimulation, but when it comes to the G Spot, you can really go to town. Think about it logically… the vagina and cervix have evolved to be put under incredible pressure during childbirth. The G Spot can take more than you may realise, but it has to be done slowly and always with your Queen’s permission.
You have to build up the intensity and constantly ask your woman how she is feeling. Tell her you want feedback. Ask her if she wants it harder or slower or faster. Just encourage her to always tell you. Remind her you are here to serve her.
You should be able to build up to a point where your arm and thumb feels like they could fall off from lactic acid build up. That’s your challenge. Push through it fellas. The rewards are just around the corner and man are they worth it! If you are a more ‘mature’ man who doesn’t have quite the same erection as you used to, throw out the Viagra and give your woman a bone crunching G Spot orgasm that she will never forget. Penis’ are great, but geez you can do a lot without them.
At this stage it’s all about feel. You have to know how hard and how fast by listening to, and feeling your woman. I will say that the biggest mistake I have made is not going hard enough. It never ceases to amaze me what the G Spot can withstand.
This technique is simple, powerful and unforgettable. What more could you ask for in an area of the body that has been so mysterious for so many men and women?
She will probably feel like she is going to pee. This is normal. She won’t. This is the fluid building up. Not all ladies will squirt, and I am yet to experience it, but don’t take ‘no squirt’ as a sign of failure. This squirt fluid comes from two tiny pin holes on either side of the urethra. That is really just a by-product and will happen with some women easier than others. But if she does, tell her how honoured you are to have been able to make her do that. Tell her you love it.
This could take 1 hour, 30 minutes, 15 minutes, 5 minutes… don’t worry about time. Just serve.
Once you have mastered the G Spot, it’s time to move on to the Cervial Orgasm which we are going to talk about in the next episode, number 97.
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