There was a period where I was working not in music, so I put music on the back burner and I had filled my life with so many projects, and they were amazing projects, don’t get me wrong. But they needed a certain level of commitment and push that was very uncomfortable. And so after a year of going really hard core on this specific project, I remember I was lying in the bath, I was in desperate need to get my nervous system out of this icky, sympathetic state, back into parasympathetic. And I had poured this bath, put in some Epsom salts, some essential oils and I was desperately trying to just feel myself again. It was just before Christmas and no matter what I did, I was meditating, I was doing the right things, but my body was just like, eeerrrr, it was just really struggling because I was pushing. I was pushing really, really hard.
And I was lying in the bath and I remember thinking, “Man, I feel it in my freaking bones, I really do.” I feel the lack of truth, the lack of doing what’s true for me. I can literally feel that permeating my cells. And that’s where this song was born from.
And there is an amazing music video, which I had to train for six weeks doing fight training, getting into shape and it’s kind of a violent music video, which is not really… I don’t do a lot of violence, but this is what the song is about. It’s about getting to that point in your life where you feel so desperate, you just got to get out. So, definitely check out the music video. It is one of the most incredible things I’ve seen. It was a work of serious love and you can check it out at iamnickburnhurst.com/bones.
So today I want to talk to you about self-awareness, and as I said in the introduction, sometimes you come across people and you’re just like, “What is this person doing? Why are they so at peace? Why do they exude this beautiful… this like gooeyness that you just want to like touch, you know?
And I’ve met people like this. One of them, in particular, was a good friend of mine now, Mike Sherbakov. And I remember when I first laid eyes on Mike… this sounds like a love story, doesn’t it? When I first laid eyes on Mike in Greece, I didn’t know who he was. I was doing a group project working with some refugees out of Athens, some Afghanistan refugees. And Mike was on this trip with me and when I was introduced to him, I just looked at his face and I was like, “Whoa, this guy is so present,” literally. When he looked at you, it was like he was staring through you. I know you’ve probably heard that it sounds a bit cliché, but when you meet that person, it’s palpable. Like, you can feel it. Mike is one of those people.
And another person is one of my good friends and mentors, Jonni Pollard from 1 Giant Mind. And again, you just want to hang out and just be around this person. We had him around for dinner one night and we were playing him some of my songs before they were released. And we are all very early to bed people and we just wanted to stay up all night chatting, you know, because there’s this beautiful connection. But also, just this sort of desire to soak up what he was exuding.
And I want to share with you how these people get there. And they do have different paths, but it’s one thing that they’re doing, whether it’s intentionally or unintentionally. Which is creating this attraction, this feeling of magneticness. And that is beingness. So yes, we are human beings, we get caught up in the human doing. I am guilty of this as well. But at our essence, we are human beings. So what does that mean?
I’ll say it again, beingness is the experience of yourself beyond your mind. It’s a beautiful, beautiful experience.
Now, the way I get to this experience is through meditation. This is why I do a “being” technique. They have other names, transcendental meditation, Vedic meditation, the 1 Giant Mind being meditation, but essentially what they’re doing is taking your mind, they’ve given your mind something which is stupid charming. It’s like a toy for the mind. And the mind finds it so charming that it’s more charming than thought. So, your mind just starts to slip through the cracks of thought, down, down, down, down into being.
There’s you beyond your mind, beyond thoughts, and in that space is beingness. And what we want to do is work our way up to cultivating that feeling that we get when we have our eyes closed, when we are in beingness, and we want to take that feeling into our eyes open state. And that’s why we’re such big advocates of this specific being technique. And Melissa and I are actually becoming certified meditation teachers in that technique because we know how powerful it is. We know that we would not be where we are if we didn’t have that technique.
But what has that technique done for us? Because beingness can sound a bit sort of esoteric, so let’s make it practical. When you are more established in ‘being’, you start to cultivate a level of self-awareness. Now, self-awareness is the thing that enables you to have clarity of thought. It’s the thing that allows you to start making decisions that are based on your truth. So, if there is a lack of self-awareness, you will not be able to nourish your body in a way that is good for you as an individual, because you can’t tune in to what you need, what your body needs.
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